Today marks our 20th wedding anniversary.
It will also be our last as we've decided to set each other free through means of a divorce.
In total we've been together for 23 years and we had a lot of good times and experiences.
At least that's what it looked like on the outside. What nobody knew, myself included was that I was very lonely most of the time.
Only last week did I receive words for what I’d been feeling for a long time. The book "Attached" was brought to my attention and it made all my guilt about not continuing our marriage fall away. My husband and I have very different attachment styles so at our core we are always at odds with each other.
I was baffled to see our entire marriage saga summarised on one page. I've added a copy below and the credit goes to the authors Amir Levine and Rachel Heller with the summary made by Abbey Beathan. I hope they don't mind that I share their knowledge here because I want more people to be aware of their own attachment system.
William and I are much happier with each other now the pressure of the social contract called "marriage" won't be binding us for much longer.
Of course we are taking excellent care of our daughters and will be doing so for many years to come.
Thank you for reading all this and if you choose to comment please make sure it comes from kindness and love as these past few months have been very hard on me.